Bayi tidak perlukan sabun mandian

Menjadi ibu buat pertama kali (hatta banyak kali sekalipun) kita pasti sangat teruja untuk melengkapkan segala keperluan bayi. Baju-baju bayi semuanya comel-comel belaka. Senarai kelengkapan memang panjang betul, tambahan pula jika ibu bapa mempunyai pendapatan yang tinggi. Antara barangan keperluan yang masuk dalam senarai itu ialah mandian bayi.

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Bagaimana jika saya katakan, untuk dua tahun pertama bayi, anda tidak perlu untuk menggunakan sabun mandian untuknya.

Terkejut tak?

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Petua anak kembar

Saya ada membaca beberapa tips dari segi pemakanan dan lain-lain yang membolehkan kandungan kembar berlaku. Sekaligus dapat memenuhi impian ramai ibu bapa lain yang sangat menginginkan anak kembar. Tapi saya belum mahu berkongsi mengenai itu lagi. Saya nak berkongsi mengenai realiti kami, mak ayah si kembar.

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Kata orang, sekali sakit, keluar dua (atau tiga, atau empat) terus. Tapi realitinya, hanya kami, para ibu bapa kembar sahaja yang mengalaminya disebalik kecomelan si kembar kami.

Ketika saya mengandungkan si kembar sehinggalah si kembar saya membesar berlari-larian di sana sini, FAQ (frequently asked question) yang saya selalu dapat ialah,

‘Cer bagi petua sat, macam mana hang dapat twins?’

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Nak panggil abang/kakak ke adik?

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Disebabkan anak sulung saya ialah kembar (dan saya juga mempunyai ramai kawan yang kembar) maka saya juga adalah sangat keliru sebab ada yang kata yang keluar kemudian itu yang pertama sebab bagi laluan adik beliau keluar dahulu.

Hati kecil saya selalu berbisik, ‘macam tak logik dek akal je’.

Menghampriri tarikh temujanji pembedahan si kembar saya (si kembar saya dilahirkan secara elective cesarean), saya pulang ke kampung halaman. Satu, sebab saya memilih untuk dibedah di sana, kedua, memikirkan ini merupakan kelahiran pertama, secara pembedahan pula, maka saya sangat memerlukan pertolongan dan sokongan dari ahli keluarga pasca pembedahan dan ketika berpantang.

Oleh itu, dapatlah saya suarakan kekeliruan saya yang itu kepada ayah saya.

Kata ayah saya,

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5 Tips menjaga si kembar ketika dalam pantang

Pantang oh pantang

Pantang oh pantang

Setelah mengharungi tempoh mengandung yang mencabar akhirnya si kembar yang ditunggu-tunggu lahir. Tidak kiralah anda melahirkan si kembar anda melalui kaedah vaginal birth atau caesarean, yang penting anda dan bayi kembar anda selamat.

Perkara yang paling penting buat ibu si kembar ialah mendapatkan kembali badan yang kekal cergas di samping menjaga si kembar.  Sangat penting buat ibu si kembar berpantang sebaik mungkin kerana dengan berpantang, ibu akan mendapatkan kembali kecergasan dan kesihatan yang lebih optimum setelah tempoh berpantang selesai. Dalam tempoh berpantang ini merupakan sesi pembelajaran buat ibu, ayah dan keluarga terdekat cara menjaga si kembar. Akan tetapi bagaimanakah menjaga si kembar ketika anda sendiri masih kurang sihat sepenuhnya?

Di sini saya kongsikan tips menjaga si kembar ketika ibu si kembar masih berpantang (confinement mode).

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5 perkara  yang anda perlu buat apabila positif mengandung kembar

Pada hari raya aidiladha tahun lepas, saya dipertemukan oleh Allah dengan seorang ibu yang berkemungkinan mengandung kembar. Kandungan beliau sekarang merupakan kandungan yang ketiga dan beliau mengalami sedikit pendarahan. Beliau sudah pun menjalani pemeriksaan dengan doktor dan diminta datang semula dua minggu kemudian.

Alhamdulillah kami dipertemukan kerana beliau dan suami memang mencari pasangan atau ibu yang pernah mengandung anak kembar. Sebab itu, kita kena percaya kepada pertolongan Allah, jika kita memang perlukan pertolongan, insyaAllah akan sampai bantuan tersebut.

Dan saya juga telah bercerita sedikit sebanyak mengenai pengalaman saya dan suami ketika mengandungkan si kembar dahulu. Seronok saya dapat membantu dan berjumpa dengan mereka.

Jadi saya yang gatai tangan menulis dan gatai kepala mencari idea, mulalah mengarang satu entri mengenai hal ini.

Chill mom

Chill mom

Ok, apa nak buat apabila positif mengandung kembar?

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Growing up with them (Part 13)

The power of OBSERVATION: What to do after shopping

I wrote about Rayyan’s quick witted by operating PC on his own before. Since then, I tried my best not to show much of negativity or bad habit in the house (although failing abysmally like every day, but at least, I am trying, huh). Nevertheless, that is not what I want to write about today. Recently, I discovered something else.

It is quite a well-known to those who read my blog regularly that my sons loves shopping (I don’t really understand where they get that from..hahaha yeah right, *grinning). So last Thursday, we went to buy some groceries since all our stocks almost clean out. My elder sons were ecstatic. We didn’t really spend much time there since we need to get their younger brother for a check-up, he was on fever for two days already. After check-up, we rushed straight back home.

As we entered the house, normally my sons would help carrying all the items that we bought to the kitchen, including their diapers. I would then packed every single item in their right place, stocking the veggies, fruits and herbs up in the right containers in the fridge, while the dry items would be placed in cabinet that specifically for food. Well, this time, it was them who did the stocking. I didn’t realize what they were doing at first, I thought they were looking for their yogurt in the fridge, because I was torn between exhaustion and the urge to clean up chicken quickly.

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6 Important Tips for mother-to-be

I already write quite a long-justified paragraph but then since this is supposed to be a mere guideline and a refrigerator-paste-checklist like, so I rewrite this back and throw away all the unnecessary babbling.

  • First, to the new mother-to-be, you will need a new born checklist. It helps to reduce unnecessary stress and you can prepare your budget earlier. There are a lot in the internet that you can refer to. It is also useful for a reminder to the first time father too.
you need a checklist

you need a checklist

  • Second, do not tend to follow everything in the checklist (if you are referring to the sample in the net).You don’t normally need all those things like baby skin care product, or pacifier or nursing bra, just to name a few. The checklist is just to help you aware of what you and your baby might need and you must be smart to tick which is important and which are just accessories. Set your priorities and your budget limitation.
  • Third, make a full use of pure olive oil (the one that we use for cooking). Just apply some olive oil (or coconut oil) at babies under arm, under knee, genital area, bottom and around the neck. Every time the baby need to change (diaper), apply the oil after cleaning, it didn’t just prevent nappy rash, it will also help to clean faster if the baby poop (spray some water and the poop will cleanly ‘swipe’ out, like magic!)
  • Fourth, do not introduce any lotion and baby bath to your baby. There is no need to bath the baby frequently during his/her early days. Just bathe your baby with lukewarm water and apply olive oil (or coconut oil) afterwards.
  •  Fifth, if you are planning to breastfeed your baby, do not panic if your breast milk seems not enough to the baby for the first few days of delivery. Keep nursing your baby and you must drink a lot of hot water and milk. When you are panic, you will allow unnecessary stress and stress is the last thing you will need during confinement.
  • Sixth, STUDY EVERYTHING YOU CAN ON NATURAL BIRTH AND BREASTFEEDING. Even if you will be undergoing caesarean, you still need as much information as you can. It will help you a lot.
countdown to the day the baby is born

countdown to the day the baby is born

I think that is all. I am not a list or a diary kind of person but all the above that I mentioned are those that I did during all my pregnancies. Even when I was in my second pregnancy, I still read a lot about pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, confinement and babies. Sometime to refresh my memories but most of the time, I gained new knowledge.

Happy preparing mothers! 🙂

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